stop destroying families
Let me give you a little insight in to my issues here.
As we all know drugs are a major problem in society. People are killing for these drugs and destroying people's lives.
So when I say I had a dirty ua for drugs , one might believe I should have my children taken away.
But let me enlighten you here, this is the first and only dirty ua I've had in my 39 years.
I have no criminal record, no drug history, completed high school , became a surgical Dental assistant.
Worked for 6 years at scholastic book fairs.
(And still 14 clean ua's later, I am labeled a drug abuser)
My children's father has a long criminal history, while on probation 3 years ago, he was arrested for 3 dirty ua's for meth.
While I faced the trial alone (because he was bribed to testify against me), he took the stand and confessed to being a past meth abuser and cook. And claimed sobriety for 2 years ( no rehab, and last year had a dirty ua for meth, that cps themselves had given him)
Cps chose to give custody of the children to him, after the court had ordered the children be returned home.
Since he has allowed his long term friend and buddy (with 179 counts on his criminal record, that include meth production, sales and use) around the children (the children know this man well now, by first name)
When I brought up this witnessed fact to the caseworker , she told him don't do it again (yeah like that's gonna stop him)
He has made countless bad decisions that shows he is a safety risk, transporting the children without car seats, (mind you he owns car seats) these children are ages 8, 5 & 4.
Smoking in the house and car with the children present. (I tried talking to him about this, he just said "so", I told him second hand smoke is a first rate killer, he said "stop bring up petty shit".
He has Neglected in giving our son, with benign rolandic seizures ,his medication correctly (kipler, causes high emotions) neglecting to give the vitamin b6 to help stabilize his emotions , to the point the school wanted to remove our son from themselves.
(Way to figure out the root of the problem before jumping to conclusions)
Our children have all lost weight while in his care.
And the dentist has been concerned with his ability to follow simple instructions, since he brought our daughter in for dental surgery, (she was not to be sick) and only informed the dentist she was just getting over strep throat after the dentist decided it wouldn't be safe to do the surgery (this was dangerous and life threatening)
I have tried to speak with the caseworker about this (she wants to have a meeting with me to inform me to stop brining up petty stuff.
Please do not get me wrong, this father is out of his element, he hasn't a clue.
But he loves his children very much, and they love him. He is trying hard. But this is not a role he ever wanted to take on.
(As he says , it's woman's work, yeah a bit of a pig, but come on, woman are more emotional on these things so this role is second nature)
Please understand there is a balance here that the father and I are trying to work out.
I do not wish to take full custody of the children, I want him to help raise our kids (with the help of his family, my family and so on...... come on raising children is a group effort sometimes)
But the intrusion of cps is not a useful effort when they help alienate the children and families.
I have been asking for help to get my children back home....... I created a petition (I hope it didn't come across wrong) that questions the placement of my children. And asked for the help in returning my children home.
I've completed all that cps had required of me, yet still I'm forced to have supervised visits ( yes the father has even asked the caseworker if he can just drop the kids off with me)
I've asked for the clarification as to any current safety threat that would justify her decision on this (it's been a month and she still won't reply) especially since they themselves signed off and are not conducting anymore safety meetings. (There wasn't really anything there to begin with)
I have five children, the two oldest are still home with me in my four bedroom four bathroom home.
When they get out of school I have to leave them to go visit with their 3 younger siblings , in a two bedroom home with 5 adults and three children.
If I miss any of these visits it looks bad upon me, yet my older children can not stand to go with me because of the verbal abuse they receive from the other adults there.
I am a mom being forced to neglect my children , while trying to be in two places at once.
This can not be in my children's best interest. This is not in my families best interest.
But this is the kind of help cps has to offer families.
Please help me tell the cps worker to return my children.
Thank you............
